"To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful,” especially if you are the one who wanted the relationship to last. When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. The rupture of an intimate bond between two people spells crisis in most people's lives, and grief and anger are normal, healthy responses to this overwhelming loss. In a breakup, not only are you losing the person you love, but your existence as part of that couple. For most of us that means the loss of the way we led our lives. It's like world comes to an end for some. But how do we get beyond the pain? Go through it, not around it. You have to grieve in order to move on. By going through the intense pain, You will eventually surface as a stronger person ready to tackle problems head on. Soon the pain will loose its stronghold over you. Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. Care enough about yourself to conserve your energy for those who deserve it, starting with yourself! Detach. Attempting to fill the void yourself, without rushing to a new relationship or trying desperately to win your lover back, is essentially what detaching is all about. Buddha taught that attachment leads to suffering. So the most direct path to happiness and peace is detachment. “Great Monk, let me ask you: How can I attain liberation?” The Great Monk replied, “Who tied you up?” This old gardener answered, “Nobody tied me up.” The Great Monk said, “Then why do you seek liberation?” Release feelings of anger, hatred and thoughts of revenge. Understand this are all related to ego and cause you more harm than good. Anger exacerbates anxiety and depression, keeps us tethered and prevents us from moving forward. Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies. Repeat the mantra, "I forgive and release you and let you go." Talk to friends and family who are empathic and kind. Tell them and share your pain, and get their help if you feeling suicidal. Know you are lovable. Do not misinterpret the end of a relationship as meaning you are somehow not good enough. Sometimes people aren't capable of giving us the love we need and deserve, which is their lose and not yours. You are exactly as you should be and are perfectly loveable just the way you are. "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." Get proper rest, nutrition and exercise. Don't isolate yourself or your depression will take a deeper hold on you. And remember, this too shall pass. Put one foot in front of the other and time will heal your wounds. The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it! Love, Light & Peace ~ Om Namah Shivaya!
Namaste Beautiful People !
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