Handling Cheating in a Relationship

Handling Cheating in a Relationship

I can tell you one thing, suppose you were in your partner’s place and you made a mistake; not willingly but unknowingly, or due to some compulsion. If your partner does not forgive you and holds it against you, how would you feel?

Get into your partners place and see. If you were the person who made that mistake, and your partner is not forgiving you, would you feel okay, or would you beg your partner to give you one more chance? This is good enough for you to take a clue.

You expect your partner to be an enlightened person. You expect him to behave in an enlightened way. This is expecting too much from your side. If they have made a mistake once or twice, you should forgive them and give them another chance. This is why spiritual knowledge and the spiritual path is so essential for someone to grow in integrity and in honesty. Without this there cannot be honesty.

If they have made a mistake, your bigness is in forgiving them, you should not make someone feel guilty all the time. If they have done some mistake, you should say, ‘Never mind, forget it! Let us move on'. But we don't do that, instead what do we do? We walk with a finger pointed towards them, which says, ‘You did it!’ Then how can they be friendly with you?

Nobody wants to cheats anyone, it is a temptation or a craving for something more that drives a person to do unethical things. Your soul does not stop until it finds itself, until it finds the ocean of joy. Until then, it keeps going for something more, thinking, ‘I may get something here’. This is what drives a person.
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See! When you do pranayama and meditation, then any wish in your mind immediately gets fulfilled. Isn’t it so? You never have to cry or strain yourself for getting anything. Whatever you wish for starts happening. So, do not wish for small trivial things in life. Wish for something big that will benefit everybody.
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Q: For any issue in this country people are not taking a hard stance. People are not listening to others views. We see a society which is fragmented. Please guide on how we can move forward united.

Guruji: There is only one way, and that is to improve communication between people. We teach people all other things but we don’t teach them how to communicate. We don't teach communication even in schools or colleges. Nowhere do we learn communication skills when it is absolutely essential.

In Kannada literature it is said that your words can bring you wealth, your words can bring laughter and humor, and your words can bring you problems as well. So we need to educate our kids how to communicate.

There is a lot to be done in the education sector. We need to turn it around. Education has become just stuffing of some information into the young minds. The current education system does not develop the personality of the kids per say and this is what we need to do now. We need to develop the personalities of the young people because information is easily available now.

Om Namah Shivay