Why is Living with People so Difficult?-2

Why is Living with People so Difficult?-2

One is sure to respond by, “I understand all this as far as the moon, ice, trees, and plants go; I also understand that I cannot change fire and so I should accept it; but should I not expect my child to do well in his studies? If my children are committing mistakes, should I not teach, educate, and discipline them? How is it possible not to expect anything?”

It is important to understand the message clearly and completely. The message is that one should accept the fact as it is. Then if a change is necessary, try to make that change, but do not insist on it. Every parent wants the child to perform well and excel whether in sports or in studies. There is nothing wrong with that. But, to expect something that may not be possible for the child to do, and unnecessarily, apply pressure and force, will cause frustration to all.

When one is living with people it may not be possible to have no expectations at all, so one should have reasonable expectations. An artistically inclined child with no aptitude for commerce should not be forced into the family business. Expectations should be reasonable and based on knowledge and wisdom. At the same time, you cannot insist on your way, due to the fact that there are innumerable other factors, which govern the entire universe.

As far as Nature or the moon is concerned, we do not feel a sense of ownership or possessiveness. But with regard to people it is extremely deep-seated and can be very destructive. What we need to have is love and affection. Along with that there should be freedom and space too. Two hands joined together leave a gap and can be easily separated. Similarly, we should give people space. Often we hear people say, “Give me some space please!” If you love a bird, will you cage it and expect it to be happy? It is not possible to love someone and at the same time to also confine them in that love.

Om Namah Shivay