Why do we have problems with relationships?

Question: Why do we have problems with relationships?

Answer: Life is all about connections. Our mental, emotional, physical and psychic selves only establish connections, be it with nature, people or things. We don’t know how to relate to them. We do not build relationships. When we connect with consciousness and awareness with what is around us, only then do we actually relate to them. But we do relate to something and that is our selfish nature. Any action based on the selfish motive will not endure long. We use the word, ‘relationship’ and it sounds beautiful but actually what we are doing is just making arrangements. We want a comfortable life and so we make arrangements that are comfortable. But we don’t have the courage to admit that we have formed a certain relationship for comfort. We fool ourselves into thinking it is love or something more. An arrangement sooner or later breaks down or has to change. Don’t you often re-arrange your furniture? Our life, built around the idea of comfort, calls for arrangements. From our young years itself, are geared to think of becoming economically independent, have a family and home which is secure... it is all an arrangement. But we have come to feel that this is the only way to live. Because we are tied to such stereotypes, unwilling to look beyond, we suffer. We are so closely related to the sun and to water, for example, but what relationship have we built with them?

Om Namah Shivay