Leaving Your Regrets Behind-2
We all have regrets in life. I’m not even talking about grave regrets of wrongdoing or transgressions. I’m talking about simple noise in the head. That chattering of the mind that tells us how our life could have been, would have been or should have been had we done this, that or the other. Like the activist, the blabbering mind shows up just when you sit down to relax or do something that you enjoy. It nudges you, nags you and reminds you about your choices in the past. Choices you were once proud of but not anymore. You start to feel low, a feeling of regret rains down on you washing aside your peace. The present looks dull and future bleak. You wish you’d lived differently.
In this moment of weakness when you are laden with regret, the mind begins to focus on what you could have done in the past to have a glorious present. And as they say, in hindsight vision is 20/20. The truth is, endless analysis of your past is mostly blabbering of the restless mind. For, chances are, you did what you thought was best at the time. And, that, in my view, is good enough. What matters infinitely more is to focus on your present and make it worthwhile for the present of today will be the past of tomorrow.
Before leaps and running comes walking and crawling. It’s never too late to make a commitment to your future. Don’t count the weeks, months or years. Simply, keep walking one step at a time. And remember, if you don’t embark on your journey now, you will only lose more time. For, time is passing anyway.
If you want to get a sense of time then simply look at a stopwatch (your phone will have one) where you see milliseconds zipping away. That’s how fast life is going by. Millions of creatures are born and millions die in a fraction of these blinding fast moments. The wheel of time continues to churn relentlessly. Moments gone will never come back. Act wisely and mindfully in the living present. Past is dead, it has nothing new for you. And future is just the present of tomorrow. Now is the only living moment, the only true moment in which life actually exists in its entirety.
A rich man walks to his Bentley in the parking lot and finds the headlights broken with a fair bit of damage to the bumper. Exasperated, he vainly looks around to see if the offender is in sight. He is, however, relieved to see that there’s a slip tucked under the windshield wiper. It reads:
“Sorry. I just backed into your Bentley. Some people around are nodding and smiling at me because they think I’m leaving my name and other details. But I’m not.”
And so it is with life. For no direct fault of our own it seems, sometimes our present turns out different than what we envisaged all along, and we think life will give us some indication on how to go about it fixing it. But there’s none.
One way to get past your past and your regrets is to give your life meaning. Once you discover the meaning, the purpose of your life, you no longer remain the old you. The new you is born in the same body. It becomes a whole lot easier to shed your old tendencies as your newfound meaning becomes your guiding and driving force.
Om Namah Shivay