Can you love others without loving yourself?
Once in a workshop, I was speaking about loving self and one gentleman started arguing. He said, uptil now we have been taught that we should never love ourselves and we should devote our lives to the service of others. I agree we should live in service but the big question is, can you give something to someone, which you do not have yourself? When you are deprived of something, you would keep asking for yourself and when you are asking for yourself all the time, then how can you give it to others?
Whatever problems you see in others, whatever good things you see in others, actually are a reflection of the things you find in yourself. Whatever love you have been feeling for yourself reflects in love you feel for others. A mother also gives love to the child, because this is how she has been feeling. She feels it's my child. A person who loves himself or herself unconditionally can only love others without expectations and unconditionally. A person who has not accepted himself completely can never accept others and this world completely. Whatever faults he would find in himself, he would find in others too. A person who does not feel good about himself, would also look at the world in same mirror. For him the world also would be a bad place.
Its a very noble intention to desire to give love to everyone you meet. However, that can only happen, if you have been loved enough. However, if you depend on others you would always be insecure and you would never be satisfied. It has to come from within you to satisfy you. Spend time alone, ask yourself what factors I do not like about myself, if there are some why they are there, do they matter. How can I accept myself unconditionally. What are the things I like in myself and how can I give them as a gift to the world. How do I love myself more. More you spend time with yourself and look inside, more you would know how vast you are. How limitless you are. You would realise there has never been a reason to judge yourself or evaluate yourself. You have always been complete and perfect. When you will be able to see your completeness, then you will be able to see completeness in the others and in this world.
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Love brings perfection. The realisation that you are not just the body but you are spirit comes through love.
Om Namah Shivay
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