Tuesday 5 May 2015

How to handle disappointment?-2


How to handle disappointment?-2
Don’t stop believing in yourself
Sometimes disappointment can make you feel like a total failure. You may wonder why these things “keep” happening to you, or you may begin to think that you were not being wise to get your hopes up in the first place. But none of that is the truth! Do not succumb to this thinking. Do not allow yourself to give in to these negative thoughts!
Look for solutions or compromises
Contrary to popular belief, you cannot have your way all the time, but often there will be a second option that is agreeable to each party. Again, take a few deep breaths, relax, and look for the “silver lining.” It is possible to find something positive in almost every situation.
Believe in your ability to have hope
Keep reminding yourself to have hope and know that, despite the fresh pain of a new disappointment, you always have the ability to hope for good things coming your way in the future. Believe in yourself. Believe in hope.
You are not alone in being alone
So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you! We are all in this together. So no matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, know that there are others out there experiencing the same emotions.
No matter what the situation, YOU choose your attitude
Understand that the greater part of your misery or unhappiness is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude. A happy person is not a person who’s always in a good situation, but rather a person who always has a good attitude in every situation.
Reset and Reboot
Resetting, and starting anew, is a powerful behavior habit. What happens when we reset is that we accept what has happened, and then we commit to moving forward. We don’t live in the past, we take what the past has taught us, but otherwise we move along.
Life isn’t perfect, but it sure is great
Our goal shouldn’t be to create a perfect life, but to live an imperfect life in radical amazement. To get up every morning and take and good look around in a way that takes nothing for granted. Everything is extraordinary. Every day is a gift. Never treat life casually
Stop living in denial
Denial may be the most insidious way of harming yourself. To repress your feelings is the first ingredient in a recipe for disaster. Holding things in or ignoring them will only make you feel worse. Those around you will get the vibe and perhaps pull away. And that hurts. Denial may be the most insidious way of harming yourself. To repress your feelings is the first ingredient in a recipe for disaster. Holding things in or ignoring them will only make you feel worse. Those around you will get the vibe and perhaps pull away. And that hurts.
Just keep breathing
The most important thing to do is just breathe. Sit still for a while – an hour, a week, whatever it takes – and let the disappointment run through you, rather than take root in you. The beauty is that through disappointment you can gain clarity, and with clarity comes conviction and true originality.
Disappointment as a Gift
There's an old saying that "one of God's greatest gifts is unanswered prayers." You must have experienced this in your life at least once. So the next time you don't get what you want, remember that what you wanted may not have been what you really needed.
Om Namah Shivay

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